In case you’ve forgotten, consider this your friendly reminder that Mother’s Day is Sunday, May 14. As in, two days from now. It isn’t too late to find something wonderful for the special women in your life, especially if you follow our easy Mother’s Day Gift Guide. These are each last-minute, budget-friendly ideas. We’re farmers. We know how to make a dollar stretch.
Help in the Kitchen
Help in the kitchen doesn’t mean chaos in the kitchen. Mom likely doesn’t want your just-walked-my-4-H-pig hands in her butter dish or mixing bowl. But she might like that stack of school papers, 4-H entries, phone chargers, sports gear, latest issue of New Horizons, belts, school pictures and bobby pins that clutter her dining room table, or kitchen island, cleared off. That’s right. There really is an appropriate place for that flyer about the summer football fundraiser, and it isn’t where the meatloaf is about to go.
This sounds very basic, because none of the farm kids we know are the type to start wars or riots, but it is paramount when thinking of pleasing your farm mom. General Civility means no bickering at the barn. It means no complaining about siblings, school or supper. General Civility is being asked just once to complete a task. It is showing patience towards the younger siblings and taking direction well from the older ones. General Civility is doing things that reassure mom that she’s raising the next great leader, not the next gang leader. Be nice and demonstrate General Civility this Mother’s Day.
You read that right. Sometimes the best thing you can give farm moms is nothing. No ball games to rush off to or meals to make for family coming over. No flowers to plant then water or mow around. No dishes to wash, clothes to pre-treat or laundry to fold. Do not give your farm mom jewelry she’s afraid she’ll lose at the barn or chocolates that make her fall off her frustrating diet. Instead, give her…
You also read that right. Give your farm mom everything she wants, by giving her your time. Because really, when the tractors shut down and barn doors close and the kitchen sink drains and things finally come into focus, what farm moms really want this Mother’s Day is time with the people they love the most: Their kids, husbands and grandkids. No phones of distraction, just them.
Mother’s Day is Sunday (consider this your friendly reminder) and we’ve been thinking a lot about the hard working Farm Moms that we know. They’re a strong part of our communities, families and homes.
Farm Moms do so much to keep the wheels turning at home, at school, at work, and on the farm, and we’re lucky to know quite a few Farm Moms who do just that, so well. In a single day, they may be called a chauffeur, chef, nurse, counselor, beautician, and teacher. I get tired just thinking of all that they do.
But what about all of those things Farm Moms don’t do? Yep, believe it or not, there are certain things that you rarely – maybe even never – see a Farm Mom do. In honor of Mother’s Day, we’ve made a list of things Farm Moms just don’t do:
Farm Moms don’t complain about meals on equipment.
They understand that time is of the essence when planting, harvesting, baling hay or even running cattle through the chute. So if that means that the farm truck tailgate or the hay wagon needs to be transformed into the dining room table for a few minutes, they don’t ask questions, except “Can you pass the napkins to your brother?” They’re just happy to have the family around the “table” for a meal.
Farm Moms don’t spend much money at the car wash.
Sure, it’s nice to rinse off the ol’ grocery getter every once in a while, but every Farm Mom knows that the best way to ensure that rain falls on the freshly mown hay field is to spend $10 on a car wash. Spring mud, harvest dust, grease-covered jeans, muddy Muck boots: each sure to cover or enter the vehicle at some point throughout any given week. Why wash it now?
Farm Moms don’t take for granted the people behind the counter.
The man at the local parts dealership displays great patience as she tries to decipher the third item on her poorly scribbled parts list. The woman at the pharmacy uses a gentle smile and kindness to reassure her that their first-born should be feeling better within two days. The young girl at the check out waits calmly as the Farm Mom runs back to aisle 6 to get one more box of cornbread mix; you just never know when harvest help will stay for dinner.
Farm Moms don’t go a day without worry.
Will the youngest pass her spelling test? Will the middle be included? Will the oldest remember to use his turn signals? Will the milk check be enough? Will daddy’s doctor appointment go OK? Will the rain keep her husband out of the field again? These are only the thoughts that go through her head before getting out of bed.
But Farm Moms also don’t go a day without prayer.
They pray for safe days, healthy kids and strong markets. They also say prayers of sincere thanks for the life they’re able to live on the family farm.
Farm Moms don’t let you – or anyone – go hungry.
Are you worried about your book report? Have a snack. Are you spending your day hauling grain? Take a lunch box full of snacks. Are you getting ready for Friday’s night’s football game? Bring the whole team over for a pre-game snack. If you’re not miserable when you leave the dinner table, you didn’t eat enough. Here, have another biscuit.
Farm Moms don’t watch very much TV.
Their reason for lack of TV watching is three-part:
Lack of time (who can tune into a 7:00 PM show when the family doesn’t come in from the barn until 9:00?)
Lack of desire (once in the house, who has the energy to watch someone else’s hectic life unfold?)
She already knows she could win any season of Survivor: she’s gotten the kids on the bus on time for 26 days straight and hasn’t killed anyone in the process.
Farm Moms don’t get surprised any longer by the things they find in the washing machine.
Tonka trucks, eyebolts, toothpicks, wheat pennies and more; each telling a small story of how the previous week unfolded.
Farm Moms don’t get very excited about science fair projects because they think their life, in general, can be viewed as a science fair project.
Learning that a child can survive after sucking on a dropped-in-the-barn-pacifier, GMO arguments, mud room sink discoveries, testing if vinegar or peroxide remove blood more quickly from the carpet, and more. Your science fair project is due Friday? Let’s just clean out the bottom drawer of the refrigerator and call it done.
Farm Moms don’t think they’ll ever live up to the standards in which their mother, mother-in-law and grandmothers set before them. But what they don’t realize is that in their husband’s and kids’ eyes,